Diagnosis cancer: Openness helps persons affected at dealing with their illness
The diagnosis Krebs is a shock for the persons affected. But the diagnosis is a big load also for members and friends. Hamburg \”it is quite important not to leave the person affected alone but to handle the illness openly\”, guesses Dr. Julia Petmecky/, diploma psychologist and psychotherapist at the AOK Rhineland.\r\nMany species of cancer can be treated well and sometimes even cured today. Many people nevertheless connect cancer die and death with the diagnosis \”. This arouses deep fear and uncertainty \”, says to Dr. Julia Petmecky. Particularly at the beginning of the illness is difficult for both the sick person and his family and friends about their thoughts and worries about talking. Communication difficulties, speechlessness, estrangement and relation problems are the consequence frequent. You therefore talk to the sick person about his and your fears \”. You for example ask how he is as the treatment is going on and as he feels \”, the psychologist advocates members and friends. Also your mourning and tears do not hide you \” at all costs, but you handle openly each other also in this regard \”.\r\n
Avoiding palliating set phrases
\r\nThe cancer illness of the father or the mom also should not be hidden from children. It is the best if the parents speak honestly about it and answer their questions with them. Set phrases palliating family members and friends in dealing with ones suffering from cancer though should certainly avoid as \”becomes this again\” or \”you already pack this\”. \”You leave the sick person alone with that and saddle him with the responsibility to get completed with the illness\”, explains Dr. Julia Petmecky.\r\n\r\nA certain \”normality\” also can help the persons affected. Members and friends should for example tell the sick person about their each day difficulties quietly and distract him of his illness by the one certain time. As far as it is possible, furthermore persons affected should be invited to meetings with friends or relatives. \”It is not necessary to pack the person affected into cotton but consideration for it should be taken if he is not well\”, recommends Dr. Julia Petmecky. It also can be sensible to offer the sick person concrete help, for example support at the child support or at the housekeeping.\r\n
Looking for help
\r\nIt can importantly get that the members are looking for help if they do not get finished with their own worries and fears \” furthermore. They should not burden the sick person too much \”, with that the psychologist says. A conversation with friends or the exchange of experience can be helpful in a self-help group for example with other members. Dr. Julia Petmecky: The partner and other members of the family can \” this sick persons for duration be an important support \” only in such a way. The members can also turn and call on there professional help to cancer advice centers.
